Change is difficult without true understanding; you either succeed or fail, seemingly by chance. This teaching is transformational because it is grounded in reality.
You only have the ability to change yourself. The chronic urge to change other brings negative results. You influence others, but the decision to change is ultimately their own. Understand and respect the pace and development of peoples’ changes. There’s no need to compare, evaluate, or assess them. Patiently encourage and support those on the path as you can, and also do this for yourself.